How to be a great birth partner

How to Be a Great Birth Partner

If you’ve been asked to be a birth partner, you might be wondering what the role really involves and how you can best support someone during labour. The truth is, you don’t need medical training or special skills—what matters most is your presence, encouragement, and care. Being there for someone in labour is an incredible privilege, and the support you give can make a huge difference to their experience.

Stay Calm and Present

Labour can be intense and emotional, and your calm energy will help set the tone. Offer reassurance, stay close, and remember that sometimes quiet presence is more powerful than words.

Learn and Prepare Together

Attending antenatal classes or reading up on labour together will help you both feel more confident. Knowing what to expect means you’ll be ready to support with knowledge as well as encouragement.

Offer Physical Comfort

Small things matter. Hold their hand, help with breathing, encourage position changes, offer massage, bring a cool cloth, or remind them to sip water. These little acts of care can make a big difference.

Be Their Advocate

During labour, it can be hard for someone to speak up for themselves. You can help by reminding the care team of their preferences, asking questions, and making sure their voice is heard and respected.

Encourage with Positive Words

Simple phrases like “You’re doing amazing” or “I’m right here” can give a huge boost of strength. Remind them that they are capable and supported.

Look After Yourself Too

Birth can be long and tiring. Make sure you eat, drink, and take short breaks if needed. Taking care of yourself helps you stay strong and present for them.

Stay Flexible

Every birth is unique, and plans sometimes change. Whether it’s moving to hospital, using pain relief, or trying new positions, your steady encouragement and adaptability will always matter most.

Final Thoughts

Being a great birth partner isn’t about doing everything perfectly—it’s about being there with love, patience, and reassurance. Your role is to offer calm, comfort, and advocacy, helping to create a supportive and positive environment for one of life’s most important moments.

🌟 Top 5 Quick Tips for Birth Partners

✅ Stay calm and reassuring

✅ Offer physical comfort (massage, water, breathing help)

✅ Encourage with kind words

✅ Speak up for their wishes

✅ Look after yourself so you can look after them

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